My Little Cadets

A stray dog came into the house a few hours ago, or maybe the kids let it in. Leave it to those munchkins, in and out, in and out. He was cute in his own way I guess, but there was something about those big blue eyes that seem to pop straight out of his head.

It was a bulldog pup, black with a white head down to his neck. He was friendly, really liked kids. I was in the bathroom while he explored room after room but as soon as I came out he jumped all over me, nudged and nibbled at my hands. Definately a puppy. But he was a bit bigger than my dog. Princess is a mini pinscher.

I had the kids put him outside. He definately belonged to someone, hopefully knew his way home. He disn't have a collar and none of the neighbor kids recognized that dog. I thought it belonged to one of the neighbors who have very similar looking dogs but her boys were outside and said it wasn't theirs.

The dog tried to go in Chops' house. Chops is one of Ja's coworkers, and his son scooted the dog out with his foot. Of course Mr and Mrs Drama King and Queen ran in to tell me that Lane kicked it in the eye. I got mad. My dog is missing her right eye, I gave up my pit cause one of the kids hurt her which started a problem, and I watched too much Animal Cops back in the day. So I decided to have a chit chat with his mommy. She told me the real happenings but still my heart sank. So I told all the kids that if they saw the dog again to bring it to me, which they did a short time later.

In his own way he was cute, definately friendly and playful. I don't think he cared for the kennel too much but Bug said he liked to pee. So that was his accomodation while I called the P.D. since animal control wasn't open. He was a good boy, a bit rambunctious but then again so are the kids. It was best, he was lost and I would've felt worse if he got hurt or if he hurt the kids.

A cop came almost an hour later to pick him up. By then he had stopped yapping in the cage. It wasn't constant, just an occassional "Lemme outta here." Whatever it was every yelp broke my heart. Justin helped the officer get him out of the kennel and put the leash around his neck. All the kids said their goodbyes and waved as he was getting loaded into the rear of the patrol car.

The cop gave them all sticker badges- Kira, Justin, Tommy, Ricky, Haley and Lane. They were happy. "We're police helpers!" they kept shouting. The cop smiled. I thought it was too cute.

When the cop left the kids went back to their work which was disassembling a once motorized car. It was some car the kids found behind the house. No one knew who it belonged to. A couple if kids got hurt playing in it, so one of the parents scheduled it for destruction. Well, hauling it to the dump anyway. I should've taken a picture of Bug with my screwdriver in hand taking the car apart piece by piece. All the kids were, taking a piece and running around with it like Tonka Trophies. The little police cadets turned Hasbro mechanics. It was too cute.

A Dedication

You Just Don't Wanna Know by Marvin Winans

One of my favorite songs, touching and inspiring. Buddha, this is for you:

I hurt so many nights

Cried so many hours

Trying to make it right

Just didn't have the power

You ignored all my tears

In hopes they'd disappear

I tried to let it show

But I guess you just don't wanna know

I came to you in love

I came to you in ernest

Could you possibly explain

Why the flames, why the furnace

Just needed to get it clear

I was hoping that you would hear

I tried to let it go

But I guess you just don't wanna know

Now it's true that God is always there

He said He'd never leave

But at times a human touch is what I need

And if I had a dime for every time

I tried to call you name

Something tells me I'd be wealthy

But I  learned that I can cope

Yes I did

I discovered I can make it

In nights so long and cold

So cold, you don't know how cold

I learned that I can take it

No I wouldn't change a thing

Not for the knowledge that I gained

I learned that I can grow

I really did

I tried to let it show

I did

I tried to let it go

But I guess you just don't wanna know

Love Sucks!

Love- an ancient something-or-other that died off with the Mayans, recreated by Hollywood and sculpted for the silver screen. Nowadays, it is nowhere to be found. So why exactly do I continue to believe that I will find it? It's stupid, nothing more than a hopeless pursuit that has gotten me nowhere but on the road to disappointment and heartache. My mother used to tell us (and will occassionally remind us), "Don't fall in love with no man. It will cause you trouble and pain." Children learn by example and by experience. I'm listening now, Ma!

King Kong is on. I love that movie. It's a classic right up there with Jaws and The Color Purple. You know, King Kong was a dumbass, a big stupid gorilla that falls in love with some chick who doesn't want him back. She shows a couple of times that she somewhat gives a damn. First time on the ship on their way to America when he's throwing a big old fit in the oil tank and in the end when he croaks. Other than that, she runs from him. But he pursues, never giving up, and in the end gets shot down. It was an impossible match anyways, but still a love story (bet you didn't know that, huh?). So instead of being just a simple dumbass big stupid gorilla, he upgrades to a dead dumbass big stupid gorilla.

Yup, that's me. I'm the dumbass and Buddha is the blonde bitch I continue to chase. Makes no sense. Maybe I'm obsessed. It's time to let go. My heart hurts. I'm tired of hurting.

You ever noticed how love songs just don't hit you right in the heart anymore? But all those heartbreaking, my-soul-is-in-pain ones do. I Miss You by Aaron Hall, It Hurts Like Hell by Aretha Franklin, So Sick by Neo,  There'll Be Sad Songs by Billy Ocean, the list goes on. I could name a million that would just target you right in the chest, direct hit, bullseye. And with every sad love song comes another to empower and reenergize you: Bitch I'm Me by Brisco, Now I'm That Bitch by Livvi, No Scrubs by TLC. There's a whole new list for you there. So really, what happened to the days of Luther Vandross, The Isley Brothers, James Ingrahm, Peabo Bryson?

If I could describe my dream relationship it would definately be Goose and Carol. Yeah, Top Gun was amongst today's entertainment. They are just the most promising and enjoyable couple, up until Goose bites it of course. But in a way that describes me too- happy one minute and the next it's gone. Things that make you go hmmm. Who sang that? Forgot.

I blocked his number, not that it would really matter cause he most likely won't call anyways. If he cares he will.but I highly doubt it. That's why love is an illusion. Your head gets clouded with hope and faith and in the end that's all you're really holding on to. Letting go is the hard part cause all you have to look forward to is a whole lotta nothing. Sometimes it's hard to decide what's worse, holding on to a lie or moving on with the truth. The story of my life, they both suck.

Buddha, Mario, whoever the fuck I'm dealing with right now, here's my problem: we have been through so much together and yet we have been through nothing together. You come, you go. I'm happy, I'm sad. It's a vicious cycle. We are both two severely damaged souls, we both are the causes of own own demise, and we both set ourselves up for failure. I'm scared taking another shot at this cause deep down I know you'll fade away and disappear. Newton's Law: for every action there's an equal and opposite reaction. I think that was Newton. Whatever. Bottom line, I can feel you. I know when you will pop up just as I can feel when you're slipping away. And it drives me insane when you leave so I react in a not so sensible manner.

If you're going to be in my life, make the effort to stay there. If you have no intention on sticking around or if you plan to hide me from your kids as you have done, then by all means just go. It hurts when I don't hear your voice, it hurts knowing I may never be with you, it hurts knowing that I may never see or speak to you again. But what's worse? This lie or admitting the truth?

I could be disillusioned, it could be the product of negative thinking, or maybe it really is true. My head is screwed up and I need time to think, or maybe I need to learn to let go. I don't have any fight left in me and I won't beg. If you are trying to protect me from your life than you, to the highest degree, underestimate me. Maybe you undervalue me? Maybe I'm the only one you feel honestly give a fuck and you need to hold onto that to keep you going. The chair perhaps? How would that look with me rolling in to meet the fam? I don't know what to think and how to feel where you're concerned.

I will send you one last text, the link to find this message. And I will unblock your number for 48 hours. If you want me, if you wanna make this work, call. A simple text will do. But if you don't or if you're not sure or not ready, then let me be, and I ask that we never speak again. I cannot endure this anymore.

Know that I will always love you but I cannot be your puppet. After five years I think I deserve the truth and not to be your dirty little secret where we go off in the night and as you call it "fuck like rabbits." I want someone to love who will love me back, and if you are incapable of that than make way for someone else. I know you have problems, I understand your trials, but love endures all. If you will not let me be there for you than I need to be without you.

I realize that this whole thing is screwy and probably unneccesary. Over a phone call, the one you said you would make tomorrow which by now was three or four days ago. And it's not so much that you didn't, it's that you haven't acknowledged it. A text saying you were tired or even a good morning one would have sufficed. But it's that bitter silence that eats through me like acid. I never needed to be the top priority in your life, but one of them would be cool. I don't have to be the first thing on your mind when you wake up, but it would be nice to be the last. The smallest of gestures usually mean the most.

I feel that I could be happy with you too. You said you don't wanna hurt me. So don't.

Sixth Rule of Fight Club: Never look back

Life Is But A... Movie?

I think too much. Sometimes I really wish my head would just shut up, you know. Or maybe I watch too many movies. That must be it, considering I correlate different aspects of my life to a given film, not to mention I quote one too many movies.

I'm thinking about Buddha, crossed with that episode I had a few days ago. I don't know what else to call it. Definately not a dream or a premonition. I looked back on my blogs and it's funny how the post before "that one" happened to come directly after my haunted one. God was listening.

Then it got me thinking, there is a reason it didn't work between me and Buddha (I know, that was in left field, right?). I do that a lot but you'll get used to it.

Enter Anakin Skywalker. He's not necessarily innocent but there is something so pure and endearing about him. You can relate to him in every way. You know where's he is, where he's been, and all you wanna do is give him a much better life. He captures you heart instantly. That's Buddha, when we first met of course. Just like little Anakin, he had me at "Hello."

Anakin's grown and training to become a Jedi. He meets a girl, falls in love and all the while war is breaking out around him. In this particular version of Star Wars, I'm Padme, except I didn't bear his kids. The Emperor did.

Sorry Buddha but I really have no love for that woman. I'm sure at some much earlier point in time you saw the Senator Palpatine that may have had a shred of good in him, and maybe that's how you two paired up. So you guys produced your army of Storm Troopers and you lived happily ever after on the Death Star, but I am not judging (yeah, that's a joke, haha).  I'm simply saying that I don't like her.

So Anakin and Padme, although their union was hidden for specific reasons, had this magical bond of love between them. The world was in chaos and as Anakin tried to stick to his beliefs and keep his head above water, Padme was lost to him and he was seduced by the Dark Side of the Force. (That's actually how it happened between Buddha and I).

Darth Vader, one badass sith who once was good but is now all kinds of wrong. But that's now he was introduced. He was Vader first. He was the bad guy you loved to hate. And he had an awesome black suit that amazed you. He was a bastard. Go Luke! This is how I met Mario. I didn't like him, and I rebelled.

My heart was shattered in millions of pieces. I cried more times than I could count. I loved him. How could he choose to get back with that thing over me? I understood. He had kids. She was trying to destroy him and he had to be there to stop his castle from burning to the grounds. One week before my 37th birthday....

Ja went to see him seven months later. I sent her there. The love of a sister is amazing. She called me and as I sat silent on the other line, she tucked her cell in her pocket and proceeded to see him. Tears fell as his voice rung through my ears. God I missed him. Love is unconditional. The call dropped and I was crushed. I wanted desperately to call her back but he would know. I waited for her call, to hear the story of what my lost love had to say. After an agonizing several minutes a text came through. His phone, his picture.

I think I was more overwhelmed than anything. My Buddha returned. He wanted to explain but I couldn't hear it. One day I finally did. It hurt. I snapped. Again he was gone. How To Lose A Guy In Seven Days.

Several months later in late summer or fall I saw his youngest son on MySpace. I don't remember how I came across it, but I eventually sent a note to him for his dad. He wrote back, not his son, but him, along with a friend request. Again I was happy.

Another year had passed until I would last see him. I begged Robster too many times to talk to him for me. It finally worked and he called. I didn't recognize his voice right away but he told me "It's your Buddha." I saw him that night, made the 2 1/2 hour trip just to see him. Well, I was going anyway to my aunt's, but now I had a greater purpose. Two years and I finally have my Buddha back.

But it wasn't him. It wasn't his smile, not his voice, not his laugh, not his words. Nothing about him said Buddha. It was Mario. That was the last time I ever saw him. Buddha was gone.

"Vader betrayed and murdered your father... So what I said was true, from a certain point of view." Way to go Obi Wan. That's how I felt about Mario. He killed my Buddha. Move on. And I did.

Forward through both trilogies, all six movies have been done, the story is told. Vader was not exactly universally loved during the first set of films although he did redeem himself in the end; the second set, you really inderstood who he was, you have a much better perspective, and you realize that he was not quite the bastard you first thought he was. It made sense. He was just caught up in bullshit.

I think it was Mario I talked to last November. I'm sure it was. And I know I said some things that were not right. It was just remnants from the loss of my Buddha. Yet I think that's the person I'm getting to know now. Loving my Buddha means loving Mario too. Buddha told once that he makes a better best friend than he does a boyfriend. I never believed that, even when Mario emerged.

Once upon a time I researched the true meaning of a soulmate. It's stated that a person will have many soulmates and I do- definately my daughter, my sisters, my mom and dad, my aunt, my nieces and nephews, Mama Kim, and I could name several more. I also read that there is only one twin flame, the other half of your soul that had been ripped away before descending to Earth. One half will fairly be in peace while the other is in chaos. This is the one you were meant for. It may take one or many lifetimes before the two come together, only then can they truly love and live in God's Glory. I wonder.

I'm not sad anymore, at least not now in this moment. I worry that he'll disappear again but at the same time I'm not worried. What does that mean? I have faith that it will work this time but I feel like it will take a drastic nose-dive into the big blue like the Titanic. Time will reveal (DeBarge, love that song).

And so it goes, like sands through the hourglass, so are the Days Of Our Lives.

A Drop of Heaven

I woke up yesterday, but it wasn't where I had originally laid down. I was somewhere not of a place or time, but somewhere. It was peaceful there, warm and inviting. I was home.

An angel stood before me. He was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. He didn't have wings or a halo. Jesus, the Lord and Savior himself? I don't know. There are two depictions of Jesus Christ- the first is the image that everyone has come to know and identify with so well, and the other is Him as a black man which is rarely seen. If those two images were combined in into a celestial bliss, that was Him. I call him my Angel.

He extended His hand to me and I didn't hesitate to accept, and he slowly lifted me to a standing position. I stood but there was no ground. Where were my legs? I knew I never had any. But I stood. The wheelchair that I had stood up from faded into the darkness behind me. The tunnel? It was very dark, cold, distant, a place I wouldn't want to go. I could stand.

Beyond this angel and all around was a brilliant light, rays shining in all directions. It was brighter than any sunny morning and much warmer. But my eyes held true without so much as a wince. Within the rays was a span of clouds arched around me in a single line. There were sounds coming from those clouds, many as if they were floods of voices of a crowded restaurant. They weren't clouds. They were people, dozens if not hundreds of them. I knew them all. I was related to some of them if not many or all of them. Beside me and just behind my right shoulder was a presence I knew all too well. My dad.

I didn't blink nor did I look around. I stood eye to eye with my Angel yet I was aware of everything around me. I spoke but my mouth did not move. "Did you finally come to take me?" I asked. My Angel smiled and in my father's voice I heard "No."

The Angel reached His other hand forward, He never let go of the one He had. I settled my hand in His and at that moment every ailment and every pain I had ever endured seemed to melt away as if flushing down a drain. I threw my head back and with a great sigh of relief I thought "Ahh, that it so much better."

I could think? That didn't seem right. Not for a dream anyway. Out of body experience? But where was I? This was definately not a place on Earth. Premonition? No, that would be an image of future events that was without conscience thought.

I tried to reason it out. Ok, I'm sleeping. I'm at home in Lovington, my body is over there. Where is my body by the way (I had just noticed I was not in it). It has to be morning, maybe mid-morning. The kids have to be up. Do they know I'm dead? Am I dead? Again the voice answered, the voice I have loved and missed so dearly replied, "You're going back."

I thought, "I'm in Heaven. But if this was Heaven shouldn't there be grass and a sky?" I must be the only blonde African American in Heaven. But as that thought crossed my mind my peripheral caught sight of tall grass with daisies. I thought, "Too tall. Looks like it needs to be mowed." (I guess even in Heaven ramdom thinking is a common language.) The grass shortened, a sky appeared. Daisies and dandelions sprung from the ground. Mountains, the mossy greens ones that I think are so pretty. A stream. Birds. I was painting this calm and serene picture and as I did it seemed to materialize before me. Sunsets. I love sunsets. Heaven is the only place where you can see a mid-morning sunset. The sky was sprayed with pastel splashes of blue, violet, orange, and peach. It was magestic.

And still my focus was my Angel. My eyes never left His and all I could do was smile. It was a happiness so grand that it seemed tangible. His eyes sparkled. A twinkle came into them as if Vega appeared in them itself (my favorite star, magnificent sight through a telescope).

The clouds began to take shape but yet lacked a true form. Everything did. Everything was its own contradiction. Shape without form, color without hue. Nothing made sense yet everything made sense. It was beautiful. Not the kind of beaitiful that would describe a newborn or a cosmopolitan model. This was beauty personified. The clouds... My relatives from the days of yore. My dad, my grandma, grandpa, Scruffy! Tabitha! Sam! My animals were there too. Is this Heaven?

My Angel changed, He became clearer and  sharper. But it wasn't Him. My eyes changed. I didn't need glasses no more. No pain. I was in Peace.

Kira needs me. Random thoughts occur at any time. But I wanted to stay. I wasn't afraid. I was engulfed in Joy, surrounded by Love.

Am I breathing? I tried to focus on my pulse but instead a light wind swirled within my spirit. The voices grew louder but yet they sounded like Music. Random thought, "I gotta tell mom." And at that moment a name came to me. Shlazowsky? Skazowsky? I knew it then but can't for the life of me say it now, much less spell it. Life. How ironic.

The smell. I had to remember the smell. Very sweet. Warm. Cookies. Sugar cookies, warm scented as if baking in the oven. Chocolate, very light scent. But I'm allergic to chocolate. Even the smell will induce a reaction. But I wasn't sick. No pain. Flowers. I know these flowers. Not roses. Carnations. I love carnations. The angelic recipe as mixed by Heaven itself, from greatest to least according to my newly heightened sense of smell- baking sugar cookies, carnations, chocolate Hershey's kisses. Perfect, like coming home to a hot apple pie... A la mode.

The scene began to fade. The voices became increasingly distant. My Angel sat me back into my chair and I moved backward, back into the darkness I so dreaded. Bye, Daddy. I love you. My Angel, you are so beautiful. My family, thank you for being there and giving me something to look forward to. I'm not afraid. Not anymore.

I woke up in the great town of Lovington. I ached everywhere, from every bone to every muscle and everywhere in between. My head hurt, my throat hurt. My hands are killing me. Still congested, gotta take my blood pressre pill. My anxiety is up. The kids didn't eat yet. It's 10:30, I gotta get up. Can't move too quickly. I'm nausiated. I can do it.  Wherever I was I longed to go back there. But instead I woke up... And cried.

Dream Warrior

"In the name of Lowreck, Prince of Elves, demon be gone!" I wish it were that easy- a simple spell and all this will go away.

I am going through the atonement, dragging my cross to my final resting place. It is a long, painstaking jouney. I'm tired, I have no fight left in me. My faith is dragging along like the crucifix I'm lugging behind me. I feel beaten and spit on. Just get there already. Heaven can wait; I can't. Eternal bliss? What's that? Happiness is foreign to me, written in a language it seems I will never understand. Depression kills.

I must be cursed, haunted by a demonic spirit. No one should feel this bad for this long. The dark cloud lingers over. It's too heavy, it's cold, it drains me. Silver lining? Nope, haven't seen it. Probably went that way, second star to the left and on til morning.

No word from Kitty, not a peep. I don't care. I must be the booty call. Call someone else, dude. I'm done. I may have been caught up for a minute, but that time has passed. I don't love you. I cared, but that time has passed too. Refer to the Third Rule of Fight Club.

Buddha is my haunting spirit, the demon that dwells within and all around. Demons are described in three ways according to Paul Dale Roberts who wrote of the six types of hauntings:

1. As being angelic, a being of beauty that will manipulate the person to commit something that is sinful or out of the ordinary (Check)

2. Horrific, evil-looking (Check. Sorry Buddha, I hate that pic- the demon pic, you know that one with the horns? Yeah, give me a minute and I'll rip them right outta your skull)

3. Black mist, black fog, black shadow, black smoke. Most demonic hauntings, occupants claim to be followed by black mist or black fog (Well I'd call that a no-brainer)

According to wikiHow there 15 steps to exorcising a demonic spirit:

1. Get connected to the Holy Spirit (Maybe I can google how to do that)

2. Humble yourself (CHECK!)

3. If you have never been baptized by your own personal choice (not as a baby), get baptized fully immersed in water in God's name as a public declaration in front of others (Uh, I gotta work on that)

4. Love others (refer back to the Forth Rule of Fight Club)

5. If you have the power of the Spirit of God living in you, and you know His Word, you are ready to proceed (I'm screwed)

6. Command the demon to be silent in the name of Jesus (I love you, Buddha)

7. If you are not sure that you do have the power of the Spirit living in you (Check), then instead of commanding the demons directly, it is much safer to ask Jesus to command the spirit to be silent, or leave (That should've been Part 2 of Step 5)

8. Using the demon's name(s) command him to leave the victim (by name) in the name of Jesus! (What if I really am my own worst enemy? Is there a protocol for that?)

Now for a brief intermission....

I went outside for a smoke. Damn, I seriously need to quit that habit. When your only pleasure in life is lighting up to a mentholated cancer stick filled with arsenic and nicotine, that's a problem.

A lady bug landed next to the front left tire of my chair. I stopped and stared at it and I thought "God is with me. He's listening." It flew away almost as fast as it came. I looked up and a butterfly flew over my head, rather close enogh that I would normally dodge it from touching me. I didn't move, and like the lady bug, it flew away as fast as it had come.

Lord... Dude, can you please give me a moment to wallow in my self-pity? Por favor. I would really appreciate it. Muchas gracias, in the name of the Son, the Ghost and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Where was I? Ah, yes...

9. Don't do this alone (How ironic, hence the lady bug and the butterfly, right?)

10. Begin to worship God (That should've been Step 1)

11. Boldly an out loud, lay you hands on everything that you wish to be sanctified and pray over those things (My heart, the demon picture, or both?)

12. If it seems that the demon came back or never left don't be fooled. (Elaborate) It is another demon trying to get you to doubt Jesus and be afraid (Check)

13. Be aware that if the person being freed does not give their life to Jesus, the evil spirits can return and bring their friends (That explains everything)

14. There are many entry points that give demons legal rights to enter or re-enter you (Elaborate please) False pride/arrogance, sex outside marriage, childhood sexual victimization, materialism, violence, violent martial arts, anger, theft, murder, abortion, addictions, lust, pornography, unholy entertainment, mysticism, channeling, Ouija boards, fortune telling, praying to nature or idols, horoscopes, psychics, seances, oaths, unrighteous words, self-hatred, judgement of others, greed, slander, resentment, sloth and unrighteous soul ties from ancestors. All of these can be washed clean with prayer (Let's see... One... Two... Three... Damn, 25! The childhood sexual victimization doesn't require forgiveness but I kinda figured that)

15. Remember that Jesus resisted the devil three times with the Word of God in Matthew 4:4, 7, 10

And so it is, the 15 Steps to Performing A Christian Exorcism as explained by wikiHow. Did I mention I'm Catholic?

My next Bing searches as powered by Google: how to remove a curse, love spells to capture his heart forever, how to be happy, curing depression, and what does a blinking yellow light mean on an 83 inch flat screen tv.

Fifth Rule of Fight Club: Nothing is what it seems

(Eh hem) loving-TON

"Death is dwelling on the past or staying in one place to long." Whoever wrote the script for Mermaids obviously had Lovington in mind. This place is deader than dead, a cemetary for the greedy workaholics, zombied out in the abyss of oil fields. There's no life here, not like California. Lovington is death.

My sister told me there are no seasons here. Dirt and cows. She texted me a picture once while she was on the road- an ocean of dirt with a cow crossing the road. Why did the cow cross the road? Cause the chicken was smart enough not to be here dammit.

Well, that's not entirely accurate. There is a KFC here. Ja went there once, just once, and told me there was a chicken head in the mix and a feather I believe. I forget where she said she ate (it was take-out, of course), but she was somewhere where there were chickens clucking around the yard. Yeah I can see how that could be rather disturbing. I haven't been there. We get KFC from Hobbs.

Hobbs, there's another winner for you. Southeast New Mexico is not the place to be. Sounds like a Stephen King movie. Didn't he write In The Mouth of Madness? Not sure. Hobbs End- sounds accurate enough.

It's actually much better than Lovington. There's a decent movie theater, JC Penny's, some form of mall, a bowling alley, and any place that has a Walmart is alright in my books. But I've heard it's gangster town. I haven't seen any gang activity, much less heard of any, but nonetheless I'm not there long enough to find out. I stick to the cemetary. It's dead here.

I did visit the Inn...twice. The first time my sis and I went with our neighbor to watch him karaoke. He worked there. I think I counted more fingers on one hand than there were in the bar. Just sad. The DJ, Tone Deaf, sang too. My stomach hurt, my head hurt, tears soaked my shirt. You have not lived til you've heard the Southeast New Mexico, country ass, monotoned sung version of Henry the VIIIth I Am. It was a Wednesday. Just sad.

But I did go back. My 40th birthday was that Saturday. I didn't want a cake, I didn't even want to know that day was glaring me in the eyes. I was staring down the barrel of old age. More greys? Nah, I'm cool. Drink it off Mish.

It's boring, I'm in the inertia of my life and it's going nowhere. Stuck in limbo, caught up in the Land of Entrapment, as dead as this town. Lovington is death.

So I write, not about anything specific, just passing time sprouting new and improved grey hairs and wondering what tomorrow will bring. Ok, I can't lie. I know what tomorrow will bring... Absolutely nothing. But I don't know what the weather will be like. Something to look forward to. Ha!

Ja said there were no seasons here. Summer, winter, spring and fall don't exist. Randomness, that can always be counted on. In a three day period it was sunny, cloudy, high wind, dust storm, foggy (blowing, breezy fog at that), rainy and snowy. And that about sums up that weather report. Random.

On the drive back here from California my nephew and I stopped by this rest area, slash tour information some such crap. They had a visitor's guide of the attractions and tourist places to visit. It was categorized in relation to the northeast, northwest, southeast and southwest corners of New Mexico. You guessed it. I looked for Lovington. Brief sentence, something about coming by on a certain day of the year to see the cowboy culture and what not. Uh... Where? I've been here a year and have seen no such thing. I think there was a rodeo. I missed it. Maybe that's what they were talking about. Just sad.

I went to the fairgrounds for Cindo de Mayo. Ja and I went. Our neighbor Becky told us it was going on over there. We went, dressed up and ready for some form of entertainment. Lovington sucks, it's dead. But having it going on? We were there.

Red flag #1: Any fairground parking lot where you can see the only golden arches overlooking the area like a lion to his pride and kindom is probably not good.

Red flag #2: There are more cars at the Walmart parking lot in Hobbs on any given day than there were in the parking lot that night.

Red flag #3: People were leaving.

Red flag #4: Not a soul near the gates.

We sat in the parking lot in the truck for an extended period of time, eating McDonald's and hesistant to exit the vessel. Becky had Bug with her. Dammit. We went in. There was nothing. The deeper in we went, the sadder it got. The music from beyond finally caught our ears. Mexican country what?

In the back was an open area. Some people were dancing. There was a band. We didn't see Becky and the kids (not that we really looked). We left. Between entering the gates and leaving them was no more than two minutes, and that's being generous. Just sad.

We did hit the street fair. Downtown, a band from the 70's was there. We knew one song, forgot the band, forgot the name of the song. Just sad. We went to sell lighted ballons and showlaces. Did pretty good. The highlight of that event was counting the cash we made. Just sad.

If you're ever in New Mexico come down and visit Lovington where you can experience real cowboy culture. You'd be better off watching Young Guns or The Magnificent Seven, but what the hell, you're in the area! Come relax and enjoy the silence of the only ghost town with a pulse. Go Wildcats!

Lovington is death.